It is very common for men not to disclose that they feel depressed or anxious.
It is believed that one in eight men experience depression and anxiety — and the true figure may be higher.
It is far more common for men to go missing than women; there are more homeless men than women; and recorded substance misuse is higher among men who are struggling with depression.
Statistics show that up to three-quarters of deaths by suicide are men. Rates are particularly high in farming communities.
Men can also experience depression after their babies are born. There can be pressure to keep a stiff upper lip, to be the breadwinner and the broad shoulders of the household — particularly when financial responsibility feels overwhelming. How exhausting.
Confusion around sexuality, happiness in a relationship, finances or work can also become all-consuming.
Things that may help
- If you can talk to your partner or family about your feelings, this may help.
- Reach out to friends who may welcome the opportunity to talk too.
- Speak to your GP if you are struggling with sleep, motivation or feelings of helplessness.
- Exercise can help lift your mood. Notice whether you are drinking more or turning to drugs or smoking.
- Talking with a counsellor can help you explore your feelings, coping strategies and triggers.
- Admitting you are facing difficulties is the first step.
Learn more about counselling for men’s mental health or contact Stella for a free introductory conversation.